Cut ties with abusive mother?

[YMCMB357]

Do you have a friend you could maybe move into a flat with ?

[nickiminajsitonmyface]

Do you have a friend you could maybe move into a flat with ?

I'm not the dependent type. I hate asking for favors you know? I could temporarily but I think I can definitely put up with it until December you know? Hopefully at least lol.

[spennyj69]

Talk to her and tell her that if she doesn't change your leaving and she'll never see you again. Tell her that she's failed at being a mom to you and that you'll never forgive her for doing it. Try to get some emotion out of her. If that works tell her that you just want the best for her and that she needs to get some help. If it goes bad from there then tell her you will be leaving and she won't see you til she changes.

IMO you gotta be mean to her to get your point across. If this doesn't work then leave man. Don't let her bring you down as a person and just remember to never put your kids in the same situation someday. Hope this helped. Good luck

[WeezYIsCraaazY]

Move out, test the waters.

Who knows: maybe she'll realise what she's missing and try to make amends.

Like you said, you need to take some sort of action.

[Wisheezy]

I'd leave home but I'd also get her professional help. I think just telling her she's going to die alone and she's crazy isn't going to help her, she clearly has mental issues here and needs to be addressed by someone who can help and support her. To get her better, you don't want your mother dying just because you cba to step up and try to get her to see someone or even get them to go to her.

If she's all you got, you should do everything you can to get her help but also remain focused on your life and don't get too side tracked from that.

[nickiminajsitonmyface]

I'd leave home but I'd also get her professional help. I think just telling her she's going to die alone and she's crazy isn't going to help her, she clearly has mental issues here and needs to be addressed by someone who can help and support her. To get her better, you don't want your mother dying just because you cba to step up and try to get her to see someone or even get them to go to her.

If she's all you got, you should do everything you can to get her help but also remain focused on your life and don't get too side tracked from that.

I can't even count the number of times she's made me feel like shit. Being grown (sort of) now I realize that she's always been this way. The alcoholism has just taken her abusiveness and skyrocketed it. When she doesn't have enough of it in her system she'll just start fights for no reason, try to get rises out of me for no fucking reason. I bring money for us, I do everything around here as far as cleaning up and taking care of the house, and I still get shit.

If I try to talk to her about her drug problem she'll go off on me as hard as she can. She'll become racist and say the most retarded shit like, "Oh you listen to niggers all day. You're fucking stupid." Maybe a dumb example but she'll bring up my past mistakes, anything to try to bring me down. She's threatened me, and man I've just about had it. I've given her chance after chance after chance and she seems to be nice for a while sometimes, but she ALWAYS resorts back to her abusive mind state with me.

I don't think I can get her in to treatment. She can't be forced too, I just really think she is going to get her reality check when she wakes up in a hospital needing a dialysis machine.

[Vocker]

just move out then don't speak to her again.

simples.

It's his mom...

His mother...

It's not simple. It's not a girl friend or whatever, that's the woman that gave him birth. Lol

People are cold hearted these days

[Wisheezy]

I can't even count the number of times she's made me feel like shit. Being grown (sort of) now I realize that she's always been this way. The alcoholism has just taken her abusiveness and skyrocketed it. When she doesn't have enough of it in her system she'll just start fights for no reason, try to get rises out of me for no fucking reason. I bring money for us, I do everything around here as far as cleaning up and taking care of the house, and I still get shit.

If I try to talk to her about her drug problem she'll go off on me as hard as she can. She'll become racist and say the most retarded shit like, "Oh you listen to niggers all day. You're fucking stupid." Maybe a dumb example but she'll bring up my past mistakes, anything to try to bring me down. She's threatened me, and man I've just about had it. I've given her chance after chance after chance and she seems to be nice for a while sometimes, but she ALWAYS resorts back to her abusive mind state with me.

I don't think I can get her in to treatment. She can't be forced too, I just really think she is going to get her reality check when she wakes up in a hospital needing a dialysis machine.

Well fair enough then if you've done enough then what more can you do? She's a grown woman and is responsible for her own actions and lifestyle. You need your own life and to focus on you. It must be hard to see your own mother like that especially when you've tried before to help her mate, I feel for you bro and I wish you and her the best in your future endeavors.

There isn't much more you can try to do apart from try and help her when you can and feel you have the time to dedicate to that.

She is dragging you down mentally and physically in your life and she should be bringing you up and making sure you're on a correct path for the future but life isn't perfect and that isn't always going to be the way with everyone, a lot of people are in the same situation as you. Get yourself sorted and focused to keep you in a good path going forward to give you a good purpose.

Best of luck mate.